I went back and forth on if I should post this but ultimately decided it was necessary. Last week I received this message from someone on IG in reference to Ire’s hair. As an African woman and mother, my responsibility is to instill self-love in my daughter. I was heated at first but after calming down I actually felt bad for the person. For you to be this bold and wrong is mind-blowing.

Texture discrimination is real and it’s so sad that this message came from another black woman. We say we are all embracing natural hair but it seems like there is a new pressure, if your hair texture doesn’t look a certain type of way it’s deemed unkept. Ire is a two-year old girl and this is the texture that God has blessed her with- healthy, kinky hair. Comments like this is what makes children have complex about their beautiful hair and adults not wanting to wear their natural hair out.

This is one of the reasons I love @lupitanyongo’s book #Sulwe. Representation really really matters, I can’t stress that enough. It’s important for our kids to see themselves in the books they read, on television because this would help them appreciate what God has given them. She also made a claim about me not caring. I care about important things such as what my child eats, her welfare, her mental state and overall in her being a healthy, happy baby.

Mom shaming is quite sad and unfortunately it comes mostly from other women. We as women should not attempt to parent someone else’s children. For any of my fellow mothers who have been mom shamed & for my women who have experienced natural hair discrimination, I encourage you to stay confident no matter how many times people try to tear you down. .

How do we stop natural hair discrimination and mommy shaming? 🗣🗣Sound off